Sometimes it is so part of our traditions that we don’t realize we don’t have to do it. Some people may not respect it or understand it. Having the ‘no gifts, please’ conversation can be really tricky, especially if you’ve tried before.
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Talking with a therapist or other medical professional would be my recommendation. If gift giving from anyone goes way above and beyond this, there may be major underlying issues which is way beyond the scope of this blog post. The gift is their attention to you.” (source) “ The gift is not the item they gave you. It is important to remember that the gift ends after it has been exchanged. There is more to the gift than just the gift. Of course, on the other side of that, sometimes gift giving can be a form of manipulation or control. Gift giving as a form of manipulation and/or control Knowing = better community = steps forward. I am just trying to show a perspective that may not be known about why some people are so wrapped around the idea of having to give gifts. Nor am I excusing the behavior of unwanted gifts being thrown at you when you’ve had the conversation of ‘no gifts’ in the past. I’m not mentioning this as an excuse for someone ignoring your requests for non-physical gifts or no gifts at all. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.” (source) A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday gestures. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. “Don’t mistake this love language for materialism the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. One of the five love languages is gift giving- meaning that some people show their love in the act of giving a gift. Have you heard of the five love languages? If not, basically, every one of us shows our love in different ways, and the five love languages help us understand how our partner, friend, or family member may show their love.
Their love language might be in gift giving/receiving: Want to listen to this content instead (or in addition?) Check out this topic on my podcast, Raising Eco Minimalists.
This means that if you want to do the whole “no gifts, please” thing, you’re NOT alone.
Since originally publishing this post in 2019, it has been in the top five most popular posts each month.
The good news is I’m here to tell you that yes, there is.īut blurting out at Thanksgiving dinner something along the lines of: “I don’t want to give Christmas gifts anymore” may not be the most productive way of communicating. This post is also for you if you often wonder if there’s another way to do the whole holiday thing – without gifts. But if you’re someone who wonders what they should ask for, or gets uncomfortable thinking about all the stuff coming that you know you’re not going to want or use, this post is for you. Ok, I know it’s not actually always that easy. Maybe it’s just me, but if you have to Google what you want for Christmas, wouldn’t it just be easier to tell someone, thanks, but “no gifts, please?” “What to ask for for Christmas” is a term that gets an average of 18,100 Google hits each month.
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